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Introduction
Merrill and Mary Osmond Share Their Story of Grief, Healing, and Learning to “Troy a Little Harder”
In a heartfelt and vulnerable conversation, Merrill and Mary Osmond opened up about the profound loss of their son, Troy — a tragedy that forever altered their world. Their voices tremble with both love and sorrow as they reflect on the day everything changed and the emotional journey that followed.
“I’d heard people talk about heartbreak,” Mary admits softly, “but I never truly understood it until we lost our Troy.” She describes moments when she still expects to hear him walk through the door, offering his warm smile or filling their home with music — reminders of a presence now painfully absent. Troy was an extraordinarily talented organist, performing in sacred spaces such as the Tabernacle and London’s St. John’s Cathedral. Yet beyond his musical gifts, he is remembered for his gentleness, humility, and generous heart.
“You’re not meant to outlive your children,” Merrill says, his voice breaking. He recalls discovering that Troy hadn’t gotten up for work — a moment he describes as the darkest of his life. Both parents say that nothing could compare to the weight of that realization.
Yet even in their grief, the couple searched for meaning. They found it in the way Troy lived. “We’ve tried to model our lives after his example,” Mary shares. “To be better. Softer. Kinder. More patient. More like Troy.” Their family now embraces a new phrase: “Let’s Troy harder” — a daily reminder to choose kindness, compassion, and love.
They describe grief as something that comes in waves — sometimes calm, sometimes overwhelming — and emphasize the fragile nature of time. “Never let a day pass without telling your children you love them,” Mary urges.
Rooted in faith, Merrill and Mary hold tightly to the hope of reunion. With a tender smile, Merrill adds, “He’s playing the grand organ in heaven now. He’s making music for the angels.”
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